Dear Healer, You Don’t Have to Be Codependent to Your Business: A Path to Healing Trauma and Living Your Truth
Hey there, beautiful soul. If you’re pouring everything into your work or business but feel like you’re stuck, I see you. Maybe you’re tweaking posts to please the algorithm, chasing likes on social media, or waiting for that next client to feel like you’re enough. That weight you’re carrying? It’s real, and it’s heavy—especially if you’re an empath, a creative, or a healer wrestling with narcissistic abuse, complex trauma (CPTSD), borderline personality disorder (BPD), or codependency. Those old patterns might be creeping into your business, making you feel like you’re running in circles, trying to prove your worth. Maybe your body’s screaming too, with gut issues, autoimmune flare-ups, or chronic stress that just won’t quit. I’ve been there, and I’m here to tell you: you don’t have to stay trapped in that cycle. There’s a way to break free, to heal, and to step into the work God’s calling you to do—work that feels aligned, alive, and true to your soul.
The Weight of Trauma in Your Work
You know that sinking feeling when you’re trying so hard to grow your business or share your gifts, but it’s like an invisible force is holding you back? That’s trauma at work—narcissistic abuse, CPTSD, or codependency weaving itself into how you show up. Maybe you’re people-pleasing your clients, overthinking every email, or feeling crushed when a post doesn’t get the response you hoped for. It’s like you’re trying to earn love or approval through your work, just like you might have in toxic relationships from your past.
The American Psychological Association explains that complex trauma, like CPTSD, often comes from prolonged emotional or psychological abuse, leaving deep patterns of shame, self-doubt, and codependency. Those patterns don’t just mess with your personal life—they show up in how you approach your business. You might feel like you’re not enough unless your work “performs” a certain way. Or maybe you’re following all the “rules” of business—posting schedules, hashtags, funnels—but it feels empty, like you’re betraying your own heart.
I get it because I’ve lived it. For years, I carried a father wound from narcissistic abuse, and it showed up in how I ran my psychotherapy practice, True Health Counselling. I was codependent with my business, obsessing over stats and trying to please everyone but myself. It wasn’t just emotional—my body paid the price too, with chronic bowel issues and autoimmune struggles that flared under stress. Maybe you’re feeling that too—your body telling you it’s time to let go of control and align with something deeper.
When Your Body Speaks, Listen
If you’re dealing with gut issues, autoimmune conditions, or constant stress that leaves you drained, your body’s trying to tell you something. Trauma doesn’t just live in your mind—it’s in your nervous system, your muscles, your gut. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, in his book The Body Keeps the Score, explains how trauma gets stored in the body, showing up as physical symptoms when we don’t address it. For empaths, healers, or those with BPD or CPTSD, those symptoms—like chronic pain or digestive issues—are a signal that you’re not aligned.
I’ve been there, battling health challenges while trying to build a business that felt sustainable for my body and soul. I wanted work that nourished me, but I was so caught up in codependency—trying to control outcomes, please clients, or prove my worth—that I was exhausting myself. Those health issues weren’t just physical; they were a mirror of the emotional and spiritual wounds I carried from narcissistic abuse. The turning point came when I leaned into trauma-informed somatic work—deep healing that helped me regulate my nervous system, release the pain stored in my body, and reconnect with my truth.
That’s what I teach in my weekly online program, where we come together to break free from those cycles. It’s about listening to your body, soothing those old wounds, and stepping into alignment with your health, your purpose, and God’s plan for you. You don’t have to keep pushing through pain or chasing strategies that feel inauthentic. Your body’s wisdom is your guide—it’s time to listen.
You Don’t Need to Please the World
Here’s the truth I want you to hold close: you don’t have to be codependent with your business, your social media, or your bank account. You don’t need likes, follows, or sales to prove your worth. The world will tell you to chase validation—to post the “right” way, to follow the “right” rules. But if you’re an empath or a healer, you already know deep down that’s not what your work is about. It’s about sharing your medicine—your unique voice, your story, your gifts—with those who need it most.
I used to think I had to please everyone—clients, followers, even the algorithms. But that was just my old trauma talking, projecting those wounds onto my work. When I let go of that need for external validation, something shifted. I started creating from a place of sovereignty, where my worth came from within—from my connection to God and the truth in my soul. That’s when my business, True Health Counselling, became a reflection of my purpose, not a battleground for old pain.
You can do this too. You don’t have to shrink or prove yourself. Your work isn’t about pleasing the world—it’s about showing up as the healer, creative, or entrepreneur God created you to be. When you let go of trying to control outcomes, you open space for divine alignment. The Government of Canada’s mental health resources remind us that healing trauma is about reclaiming agency. That means trusting that your voice is enough and that the right people—those meant to hear your message—will find you.
The Ripple Effect of Your Healing
Imagine this: you, standing in your truth, sharing your gifts without fear of judgment. You’re not chasing stats or bending over backwards to fit someone else’s mould. You’re creating, serving, and showing up as your true self, aligned with God’s plan. When you do that, you’re not just healing yourself—you’re sending out a ripple effect. The empaths, the codependents, the people with BPD or CPTSD who feel trapped by toxic patterns? They’ll hear your voice and feel seen. They’ll realize they can break free too.
That’s what my work is all about at True Health Counselling. After five years of helping clients heal from narcissistic abuse, codependency, and complex trauma, I’ve seen how this ripple effect works. My practice has generated over a quarter million dollars, but it’s not about the numbers—it’s about the lives touched. It’s about helping you release the personality structures and relationship dynamics that aren’t even you. It’s about guiding you back to your soul, where you can live in true wealth—health, purpose, and alignment with God’s will.
A Path to Healing and Alignment
So, how do you move from feeling stuck to living in alignment with your purpose? It starts with healing the somatic wounds—the trauma stored in your body. In my weekly online program, we dive deep into trauma-informed somatic work. Every week, we meet online to release those old patterns, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with your truth. This isn’t about pushing harder or following more business rules. It’s about breaking free from codependency, letting go of the need to please, and stepping into sovereignty.
Here’s what that looks like:
- Listening to Your Body: We tune into the signals your body’s sending—whether it’s gut issues, chronic stress, or autoimmune symptoms—and learn to soothe them with somatic practices.
- Releasing Trauma: Through guided exercises, we release the pain stored in your nervous system, helping you feel safe and grounded in your own skin.
- Aligning with Your Truth: We connect to your unique medicine—your voice, your gifts—and learn to share it without fear or self-doubt.
- Trusting God’s Plan: We surrender to the divine orchestration, knowing that the right clients, opportunities, and connections will come when you’re aligned with your purpose.
This work isn’t just about healing your business—it’s about healing you. It’s about living in a way that feels sustainable for your body, your heart, and your soul. When you do that, your work becomes a source of life-giving energy, not a drain. You start attracting the people who need your medicine, and you create a ripple effect of healing that touches others.
You Are Enough
Dear healer, you don’t need to chase validation or prove your worth. You don’t need to be codependent with your work, your social media, or your results. Your medicine—your story, your voice—is enough. When you speak your truth, aligned with God’s will, the people who are meant to hear you will find you. It’s not about the likes or the stats. It’s about the impact, the connection, and the freedom that comes from living your purpose.
I’m here to walk this path with you. In my weekly online program, we’ll do the deep, somatic work to heal those wounds and step into your sovereignty. Together, we’ll break free from the patterns of narcissistic abuse, codependency, and trauma, so you can create a business—and a life—that feels aligned, healthy, and true. This is the medicine you’re here to share, and it’s the medicine you’re here to receive.
Take the Next Step
If you’re ready to let go of the old patterns and step into your truth, I’m here to support you. At True Health Counselling, we’ll work together to heal your body, your nervous system, and your relationship with your work. Visit www.truehealthcounselling.com to book an appointment to learn more about how we can start this journey together. Reach out today—let’s create that ripple effect of healing, guided by God’s divine plan. In Jesus’ name, amen.
