In a world that’s always pushing us to perform, to do, to measure up, it’s so easy to lose ourselves. When you add narcissistic abuse—whether from parents, partners, or family—it’s like a wrecking ball to your freedom. You’re told your feelings don’t matter, your ideas aren’t valid, and your autonomy? Forget about it. That kind of abuse strips away your sense of identity, leaving you feeling lost, wondering, Who am I? What do I even want? If you’re a victim of narcissistic abuse, that ache to find your authentic self isn’t just about self-discovery—it’s about healing toxic shame, stopping the self-gaslighting, finding your voice, and kicking the addiction to other people’s approval. It’s about making it your mission to connect with your inner self, embodied, first. Here’s my take: the more lost you feel, the closer you are to realizing you’ve been home all along. Let’s talk about how to come back to your soul, connect with God, unleash your creative expression, and trust the process of your purpose unfolding. #NarcissisticAbuse #TraumaHealing #SelfDiscovery
The Pain of Losing Yourself
Narcissistic abuse does a number on your sense of self. Whether it’s a parent dismissing your emotions or a partner shaming your every move, you’re taught to shrink, to hide, to perform for their approval. I’ve been there, and I’ve seen it in my clients—that constant questioning: Am I enough? What do they think of me? It’s exhausting, and it leaves you disconnected from your own heart. You might not even know what you desire or where you belong. That’s not just emotional—it’s spiritual and physical too. The gut-brain connection shows how chronic stress from abuse can lead to issues like IBS, leaky gut, or even autoimmune disorders. Your body’s carrying the weight of that toxic shame, and it’s time to set it free.
For spiritual businesswomen, this hits extra hard. Your God-given mission is to embody your purpose, but narcissistic abuse leaves you stuck, seeking validation outside yourself. I’ve had to unlearn this need to “measure up” to show up authentically in my work. Healing isn’t just about finding yourself—it’s about coming home to your soul, where God’s light and your creativity can shine.
Healing Toxic Shame and Self-Gaslighting
Narcissistic abuse trains you to doubt your reality. You gaslight yourself, thinking, Maybe I’m too sensitive. Maybe I’m wrong. That toxic shame makes you feel inherently flawed, like your voice doesn’t matter. But here’s the truth: you’re not broken. Your feelings, your ideas, your desires—they’re valid. Healing starts with validating your own voice. Try journaling or speaking your truth out loud, even if it’s just to yourself at first. It’s like telling that inner critic, “I’m allowed to exist.” Resources like Psych Central’s guide to self-validation can help you rebuild that trust in yourself.
Your body feels this shift too. Releasing shame reduces stress, which can ease gut issues or skin flare-ups tied to chronic trauma. I’ve seen clients transform when they stop seeking approval and start listening to their inner selves—it’s like their bodies breathe a sigh of relief. Check out MindBodyGreen’s trauma healing tips for more on this.
Steps to Come Home to Your Soul
You don’t have to stay lost. Healing from narcissistic abuse and CPTSD is a spiritual journey back to your authentic self. Here’s how to start:
- Own Your Truth: Acknowledge the abuse—gaslighting, shaming, control. Seeing it clearly breaks its hold. Learn more about narcissistic abuse signs.
- Validate Your Voice: Write down your feelings or say them out loud. Your truth matters. Psychology Today’s self-esteem tips can guide you.
- Release Approval Addiction: Notice when you’re seeking validation. Pause and ask, What do I want? This shifts you from codependency to self-trust.
- Support Your Body: Chronic stress from abuse can cause gut or autoimmune issues. Work with a nutritionist for gut-healing foods or try stress-relief practices like yoga. Healthline’s gut health guide is a great resource.
- Seek Healing Support: Trauma-informed therapy like EMDR can release stored pain. You don’t have to do this alone.
- Unleash Creativity: Paint, write, dance—express yourself freely. Your creativity connects you to God and your purpose. Entrepreneur’s tips for creatives can inspire you.
Your Purpose Is Waiting
The more lost you feel, the closer you are to finding your way home. That startling moment when you connect with your inner self—your God-given essence—is like arriving at a place you’ve always belonged. I’ve walked this path, healing from narcissistic abuse and reconnecting with my soul, and I’ve guided clients through it too. Your journey isn’t just about healing—it’s about unleashing your creative expression and trusting life’s process to unfold your purpose.
If you’re feeling lost, alone, or unsure where you fit, start small. Trust one feeling today, express one idea, set one boundary. Your body and soul deserve to thrive. Share your story below or DM me—we’re in this together. Let’s spread awareness about narcissistic abuse, trauma healing, and finding your true self. You’ve got this, and your soul’s ready to shine. 🌟 #NarcissisticAbuse #CPTSD #SelfDiscovery #TraumaHealing #SpiritualEntrepreneur
