Have you ever felt like your story isn’t enough? Maybe you’re a therapist wondering if your niche is too specific, or you’re on a healing journey, questioning if your process measures up. Here’s the truth: your healing doesn’t need anyone’s approval. It’s yours, deeply personal, and powerful enough to guide you to what I call your dharmic bullseye—that sacred alignment where your heart, body, and soul feel whole. This is for healers, therapists, or anyone seeking to trust their journey and find the path that heals them most. Let’s dive into how you can embrace your story, let go of external validation, and feel that embodied healing that lights you up.
What Is Your Dharmic Bullseye?
You know that moment when everything clicks? Your body relaxes, your heart feels full, and your soul says, Yes, this is it. That’s your dharmic bullseye. It’s not just a mental state—it’s a physical, emotional, and spiritual knowing. For therapists or healers, it might be finding the niche that sets your soul on fire, like helping others through grief or codependency recovery. For anyone on a healing path, it’s about trusting what makes you feel alive, no matter how small it seems.
I used to doubt my own process, constantly wondering if my counselling work around complex trauma and chronic illness was “enough” to build a practice. I’d scroll through social media, comparing myself to others, feeling like my story needed to fit some mould. But when I focused on what healed me—unraveling my own layers of doubt and codependency—I found my work became more authentic. That’s the power of your dharmic bullseye: it’s where your truth lives, and it doesn’t need anyone else’s permission to shine.
Why Your Healing Is Uniquely Yours
Your healing journey doesn’t need to look like anyone else’s. It’s not about matching another therapist’s methods or meeting some universal standard of “healed.” Your story—the pain, the growth, the moments of clarity—is yours alone. And that’s what makes it so powerful. Nobody else gets to decide what feels right for you, whether you’re helping clients recover from narcissistic abuse or finding peace through your own spiritual practices.
Think about it: when have you felt most like yourself? Maybe it’s when you’re journaling through a tough memory, guiding a client to a breakthrough, or sitting quietly in prayer. Those moments are your guide. They’re the compass pointing to what heals you most.
Letting Go of the Need for Approval
If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably spent time chasing external validation—likes, followers, or even a nod from a colleague. It’s exhausting, and it pulls you away from your truth. I used to worry if my healing practice was “marketable” enough, if my focus on trauma and codependency would resonate. I was looking for the internet to say, Yes, your story is valid. But the moment I stopped seeking that permission, I found freedom.
Here’s what I learned: your healing doesn’t need to be approved by metrics, trends, or anyone else. It’s not about how many clients you have or how polished your website looks. It’s about how you feel—body, heart, and soul—when you’re living your truth. When you let go of comparison, you create space for your story to breathe, and that’s where the real healing happens.
Overcoming Self-Doubt and Internalized Pressure
Self-doubt can be a sneaky thief. For years, I carried this internalized pressure, questioning if my story was enough to build a business or help others. I’d gaslight myself, wondering if my process was too messy or too specific. Sound familiar? Maybe you’re a healer doubting your niche, or you’re on a personal journey wondering if your pain has purpose.
Here’s the thing: your story doesn’t need to be perfect or polished. It’s enough because it’s yours. In my work, unravelling my own codependency and shame showed me how to guide others through the same. It wasn’t about proving my worth—it was about trusting that my experiences could light the way. Your story, too, is a map. Trust it.
How to Find the Path That Heals You Most
So, how do you find that path—the one that feels like home? It’s not about copying someone else’s blueprint or chasing what’s trending. It’s about tuning into what makes you feel whole. Here are some steps to help you get there:
1. Listen to Your Body’s Wisdom
Your body knows before your mind does. Think about those moments when you feel grounded, alive, or at peace. For me, it’s when I’m sitting with a client, helping them untangle complex trauma, and we hit that moment of clarity together. My shoulders relax, my heart feels full—it’s physical. What’s giving you that sense of alignment? Maybe it’s a meditation practice, a creative outlet, or a specific kind of therapy work. Pay attention to those signals. They’re your body’s way of saying, This is your path.
2. Release Comparison and External Standards
Comparison is a joy-killer. I used to scroll through social media, wondering if my counselling practice was enough because it didn’t look like the shiny profiles out there. But your healing isn’t about measuring up to someone else’s highlight reel. It’s about what feels true for you. Let go of the need to fit into someone else’s mould—whether it’s a certain niche, a business model, or even a spiritual practice. Your journey is valid, no matter how it looks to the world.
3. Honour Your Story’s Power
Your story—every triumph, every scar—is your greatest asset. As a healer, your niche might come from the wounds you’ve healed or the lessons you’ve learned. For me, working through narcissistic abuse recovery and codependency gave me the tools to help others do the same. It wasn’t about proving my story was worthy—it was about trusting it could guide someone else. Whether you’re a therapist or just navigating your own healing, your experiences are enough. They’re the thread that connects you to others.
4. Lean Into the Spiritual Connection
For many of us, healing is deeply spiritual. It’s about getting closer to God, the divine, or whatever feels sacred to you. I found that when I stopped chasing external validation and started listening to that quiet voice inside, I felt held. It was like God was saying, Your story is enough because I made it through you. Your healing journey might bring you closer to faith, to nature, or to your own inner truth. Whatever it is, lean into it. That’s where the miracle happens.
Building a Life Around Your Healing
Okay, you might be wondering, How do I make this practical? Can I really build a career or a life around my truth? The answer is yes, and it starts with trusting what heals you. For therapists and healers, your niche doesn’t have to be what’s popular—it just has to be what sets you on fire. Maybe it’s helping people recover from shame, guiding spiritual awakenings, or supporting trauma survivors. For me, focusing on complex trauma and codependency wasn’t just my healing—it became my calling.
If you’re not a healer by trade, this still applies. Your healing shapes how you show up in the world—how you love, work, and connect. When you trust your process, you stop worrying about whether it’s enough. Your truth becomes your foundation, and from there, you can build anything—a business, a practice, or simply a life that feels like home.
The Beauty of Embodied Healing
Here’s the best part: when you trust your journey, you feel it. It’s not just in your head—it’s in your body. That warmth in your chest, that lightness in your step, that quiet knowing in your gut. For me, it’s the way my whole being softens when I’m in session with someone, and we uncover a piece of their truth together. It’s physical, emotional, spiritual—all at once. You’ve probably felt it too, maybe when you’re doing something so you, that the world falls away. That’s embodied healing. That’s your dharmic bullseye.
And here’s the kicker: it’s not about anyone else’s process. Your healing doesn’t need to live up to some standard or look a certain way. It’s about how it feels in you—how it brings you back to your heart, your soul, your connection to something bigger. For me, that’s been about knowing God more intimately, trusting His promises, and feeling His presence in my work. Whatever your path, that feeling of alignment is your validation. It’s the truth flowing through you, and it’s enough.
Your Story Is Your Home
At the end of the day, your healing journey is about coming home to yourself. For me, that meant unravelling years of self-doubt, trusting that my story of healing from trauma was enough, and leaning into my faith to guide me. It meant realizing that God didn’t need me to be anything other than who I am. Your story—whether it’s about overcoming pain, finding your niche as a healer, or simply feeling more like yourself—is your home. It’s where you meet your truth, and for many, it’s where you meet something greater.
So, wherever you are on your journey, know this: your story is valid. Your process is enough. You don’t need anyone’s approval to heal, to help others, or to live your truth. Trust what makes you feel alive, what brings you back to your heart, your body, your soul. That’s your dharmic bullseye. That’s the path that heals you most. And when you walk it, you’ll find it’s not just about you—it’s about lighting the way for others, too. It is God’s plan and provision for your life.
If you’re seeking guidance for true security and provision for your dharmic bullseye in purpose that brings you back home to yourself, feel free to book a free consultation.
