I want to give you a reframe about attraction that changes how you understand your crushes.
The specific pull of a crush is often a projection. Your unconscious sees, in the other person, a quality that is actually latent in you.
What This Looks Like
Drawn to easy social confidence. This ease is available to you.
Drawn to a creative person. Your own creativity is knocking.
Drawn to someone who lives boldly.
Drawn to a spiritual teacher whose depth compels you.
Drawn to someone authentically themselves.
What to Do
One: identify the specific quality you are projecting.
Two: is this quality latent in me? Almost always yes.
Three: begin practicing the quality.
Four: notice the intensity shift.
Five: get support to integrate.
Six: do not act on the crush from unconsciousness.
What Changes
Attractions get less intense. You develop the qualities you were chasing. Relationships get richer. Sense of self expands.
A Gentle Invitation
If something here met you and you’d like to talk it through, I offer a free 15-minute consultation.
