If my only problem was tolerance, why do I feel so broken?

Because tolerance for abuse leaves marks — nervous system damage, memory impairment, dissociation, shame. The marks are real. But they are not your identity. They are evidence of what happened to you, not evidence of who you are.

He told me his therapist agrees that I am the problem. How do I know what to believe?

Manipulators frequently weaponize therapy language. Real therapists do not diagnose people they have never met. No ethical therapist would coach a client to call their partner abusive names. What he reported is almost certainly not what his therapist actually said.

Was it spiritually wrong of me to stay so long?

No. You stayed because you were trained to tolerate, fear kept you bound, pride wanted him to still want you, and he manipulated you skillfully. None of that is moral failure. It is a wound. God is not angry at you — He is grieving with you and leading you out.

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