If you’re a Christian empath healing codependency or love addiction, and you keep bleeding love for people who hurt you, this is for you.
I had a chat with a pastor for about two hours, and he said that I went through a very biblical journey, not knowing it, unintentionally. And now I seek scripture, because it validates my experience. The theology gives it a framework.
Seeking Validation From the World vs. the Truth
It’s crazy, because I sought validation from the world for years in recovery. I sought validation from a lover, from others. I did it so deeply, in all these unconscious ways.
And honestly, when the truth validates you, you no longer need the validation. Getting validated by others feels good, but it doesn’t hit home like truth does.
If You’re a Christian Empath Who Bleeds Love
If you are an empath on a healing journey, if you’re a Christian, if you’re a believer, if you are seeking God in your life, if you are a bleeding, loving person, if you’re a love addict, if you’re codependent, this process is going to change your life.
When Your Love Has Nowhere to Go
After all the grief, my love had nowhere to go. I wanted to love the world, to heal the world. But it doesn’t feel safe, because you can’t trust the world. You can trust yourself. Yes, you can trust God. But in the world, some people are not going to be safe.
When I was all alone, grieving everybody in my life, I had all this love. I had loved people who were toxic, who hurt me. I was distant from them and still going through resentment, still going through anger. Because when you’ve been through domestic violence, and you’ve been through insane trauma healing for years, of course there’s deep pain. There’s deep resentment, deep need, deep love. There’s all of it.
Feel It to Heal It
We do need to feel pain to heal pain. Feel it to heal it. If I could say one thing over and over, that’s it. That’s what I started my holistic health coaching practice with. Now my practice is complex trauma-informed, faith-based, relational and aware of all dynamics, but the core of it is still: to heal it, you have to feel it.
Feeling things you don’t want to feel, literally going through layers and layers of self-abandonment and self-avoidance, is so important.
The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit.
Psalm 34:18 (WEB)
The Breakthrough: Love God First
When I was grieving the loves of my life, there was no one else. My love had nowhere to go. And I thought, okay, let’s just love others. Let’s pour my love into loving everyone out there. Let’s love the world. I kept cycling this as an empath for years.
The breakthrough I had was: love God first. Boom. And I’m not just saying this because scripture tells you. It’s because it came through my body.
Revealed Through My Body, Not Church
I did not go to church growing up. I did not learn the Bible. I went through pain, through shedding, through the emotional experience, and it was revealed to me. I believe God revealed it to my heart, because God dwells there. I’m a Christian mystic. The revelation comes through the heart. It just pours out.
And the Holy Spirit told me: love God first, because God is safe. Then I poured all of my love vertically. I poured all of my grief vertically.
Empaths: Regulate, Transmute and Channel Your Energy
I’m an empath with so much energy. I have a big energy field and a big personality, and so much emotion. It’s very powerful if you’re an empath. But you have to learn how to regulate, how to transmute and how to channel.
What happens when you reach the end of loving the world and loving others, and it’s hurt you so badly, and you’re grieving every ounce of grief from your heart, and your love has nowhere to go? You’ve reached the absolute end. Where do you go next? You love God.
If the Word God Triggers You
If you don’t resonate with the word God yet, because you’re into the universe or cosmic energy, think of it as eternal, vertical energy. It took me a while to warm up to God. I used to get so triggered when I heard the word. A friend would talk about loving God and I’d be like, mmm, I don’t know. And now I’ve reached the end, and it makes sense to me. Love God first.
Loving God First Heals Your Boundaries
That’s how you heal your boundaries. Because if you wear your heart on your sleeve and expose your heart to the world, you’re exposed. There’s no discernment.
Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life.
Proverbs 4:23 (WEB)
Key takeaways
- Validation from people feels good, but it doesn’t hit home like truth does.
- Feel it to heal it: healing means moving through layers of self-abandonment and self-avoidance.
- When grief leaves your love with nowhere to go, the world isn’t always a safe place to pour it.
- Tracey’s breakthrough, love God first, came through her body and heart before she studied scripture.
- Empaths need to learn to regulate, transmute and channel big energy, not shut it down.
- Loving God first is how a wide-open heart learns discernment and boundaries.
Frequently Asked Questions
How do Christians heal codependency?
By feeling and healing the pain underneath it, and by loving God first instead of pouring all your love into people. That’s how boundaries and discernment grow.
Why do empaths feel so much?
Empaths have big energy fields and big emotions. The work is learning to regulate, transmute and channel that energy, not shut it down.
Does scripture support emotional healing?
For Tracey, scripture became validation for what she lived through her body: grief, surrender, and loving God first.
What if the word God triggers me?
Many people have been hurt around religion. You can begin with eternal, vertical energy or love, and let the relationship grow.
If you are healing from a trauma bond and want support, learn about working with a narcissistic abuse therapist Toronto empaths trust, or about faith-based Christian counselling Toronto (online across Ontario).
If you’re a Christian empath tired of bleeding love for people who hurt you, you don’t have to heal alone. I offer faith-based, trauma-informed support for empaths and healers.
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